Aaaand here’s the update, ie.  this is where things get really fucked up.

James found me on facebook.  This is our exchange over facebook email.

James:    i am sitting around thinking, its late, there is this girl on my mind and i want to say hello…and how do i say hello… i remember her last name…. so, hello :)
James:    can we talk?

Me:      What would we be talking about?

James:    the world, space, the way your smile lights up my day…

Me:        I don’t really appreciate being treated this way. I really wish you could have gotten the insecurites under control, because it seemed like we had a good thing going there. Maybe if we run into each other again, we can be friends, but sadly, I’m really not interested in anything else.

James:    my insecurities were never in me, they were in you.
James:    and frankly, if we had such a good thing going you wouldnt let it go over a misunderstanding… but thats your deal, not mine
James:    i happen to really like you….

Me:        Right. Ok. i seem to remember you saying your friends had to reassure you over and over that I was into you. I also seem to remember you throwing in the towel because you made up a story in your head how I’d gone home with some dude. Oh, and you also didn’t want to date someone who was going on other dates. I think you were the insecure one.

This then moved to ichat.  I lost the first conversation because I got super pissed and shut it down w/o saving.  I went back on to see if I could retrieve it and he sent me a message saying I was playing games.  This is what ensued. (more…)